And we are back in the pool

A few weeks ago I met someone online that seemed like a good guy and I enjoyed his company.

Except for the part he was married....

Now you might ask, how did I find out because he certainly didn't tell me?

I am good at research and listen to my inner voice.

Some tips for people in the online dating pool:

1. Listen to your inner voice.

2. Do your research. It's not to catch them in a lie but to verify they are telling the truth. The people telling the truth have no problem with you verifying that they are who they say they are.

3. Use all websites that are available like public courts, google, etc. Remember, we can be whomever we want to be online.

4. If they have no online presence, that should worry you.

5. Make sure you are able to connect all the dots.

If things don't add up....search, search, search.

By listening to my inner voice, I was able to finally connect the dots and find out that he was lying and was married.

Onward and upward!

Seriously?????

So, let me set the stage for the photo below.

I have been doing the online dating thing for a few years.  About a year ago, a guy emailed me, then we talked a few times and then nothing for almost a year. Here we are a a few weeks ago and he emails me again...

Have I mentioned I take online dating with a grain of salt?  I hope for the best, expect the worst, enjoy meeting new people and enjoying the sheer entertainment value!  Believe me, there is much entertainment value!!!!!
This is a sheer entertainment value. 

I have to admit, I really dislike it when a guy gets incredibly "sexual" quickly, especially when you haven't even met.

Alas, that's the case with this one....

We have never met, texted a bit and only talked on the phone once in the past few weeks.

And then, I get this picture mail.....(there was a song that I couldn't get  on the post)

I am not a prude by any stretch of the imagination but seriously, this is what you send me even though we have never met and only talked on the phone once??

THERE'S A MASTURBATER ON MY PHONE & I SENT HIM TO YOU .NOW IT'S UP TO YOU TO GET RID OF THIS DIRTY PEST

Never going to happen for you buddy!

First Online Date....

I moved into the online dating area of the world a few years ago.  I am not sure where you meet people after you get out of college.

I don't date at work, I don't date my children's friends divorced parents or spend a lot of time hanging out in bars.  Plus, the bar scene in Scottsdale, AZ is really not normal.   There is so much botox, boob jobs, liposuction, bleach blond hair that normal "people" really don't stand a chance.  I always joke that my chest is big enough....but my body is not a toothpick, nor has it ever really been a toothpick.

Which gets me back to online dating, still a visual sport but it does allow you a wider breadth of exposure.

So, first online "non" date (his words, not mine)

We decided to do a "drive by" meet & greet on a Weds. for a quick lunch at a point between our respective offices.  So, that pointed ended up being the very sexy KFC.  Anyway, during the course of our 30 minute lunch he told me about his "deal breakers" in relationships and general views on life.  I was ambivalent but had to get back to work.

So, we proceed to text off and on through the next few days.  As it happened I was spending a long weekend in DC to visit friends before a business meeting on Tuesday.  As we were texting, he asked me if I could send him more photos.  I said that I really didn't have any more than were any different from my online profile.  That is when it came....."You don't have any pictures that are a bit 'sexier'?"

Oh, so you mean NAKED or less clothed.  Yeah, I am going to send those to you on my phone.  Needless to say, respect is a deal breaker for me and I told him as much. 

So, it was onward and upward to the next adventure.

Stories from Today!

I have two short stories from today.  One mine and one from a friend.

I need to preface this with a note that yes, there is online dating involved in these stories.  For those of you that ask, why online dating?  Well, if you don't date at work (I don't), don't date the divorced parents of your children's friends (I don't) and don't spend tons of time at the bar (I don't), you quickly run out of ways to meet people. 

Online dating, you have to take it with a grain of salt, have a positive attitude, hope for the best and take everything in stride. 

So.......here we are at the stories for today!

1.  I get an email today: You read like a good woman so I am interested also looks dont hurt either LOL well i am here Sincerely, Tom
I was a bit flummoxed when I read that email.  I thought of a couple things I couldn't say but....my girlfriend came up with the best response that I will never send because it would be mean but it did make me laugh!

"You seem to have all of your teeth but by the way you write, you probably shouldn't.    Congratulations for breaking the stereotype."

2.  My girlfriend "dated" a guy who was kinda like "white on rice" at the beginning when he was trying to woo her...then, after it appeared he "had" her, he cut back and only really seemed to contact/see her enough to only enough to keep her interested.  Unfortunately, when push came to shove, he decided that dating her would force him to have less time with his friends and lose some of his independence. Hmm...isn't that what happens eventually in relationships?

So, they broke up but stayed in minimal contact until my friend realized that she couldn't be friends with someone that she still cared for so severed the contact completely and told him being in contact with him was just too hard because she still cared for him.  This was 3 weeks ago and she was VERY BLUNT and HONEST with her decision to which he agreed.

It just makes you scratch your head sometimes. 

OK guys, I hate to make this an all girl perspective...can you please comment or give your view on this type fo situation???